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Should We Shack Up? A Gay Lovers' Pre-Cohabitation Reality Check

Introduction

Particularly with the legal sanctions that exist against gay marriage, moving in and living together is a big step and important rite-of-passage for a gay couple. It can symbolize the development and maturation of their relationship, as well as express the sense of a deepening commitment to each other and desire for more definition as partners.

However romantic it may seem to "shack up," it's a huge life-changing decision that should not be made light or on impulse. It requires a lot of forethought and preparation or you could be setting yourself up for a lot of drama, stress, and pain. This article will offer some tidbits of information on cohabitation and lend you some questions for contemplation to assess your true readiness for "taking the plunge" as live-in lovers. Then some suggestions will be made to help foster a smoother decision-making process for you and your guy.

Dispel The Fairy Tale Myth

So you found your Prince Charming or Mr. Right and you feel ready to take that next step by moving in together. It's a very special time to be enjoyed, however it's also important to temper your excitement and let your logical mind help you determine if this is the right choice for you at this time in your life and stage of relationship with your boyfriend.

There are lots of benefits to living together: saved time on travel, being able to spend more time together, increased sexual availability, improved cost-of-living, intimacy can be strengthened, etc. Beware of romanticizing this big step in your relationship though; Recognize that this is a major life transition with lots of adjustments and that your life and relationship will change.

Even if you've lived with someone before, like with a roommate, family, or an ex, it's a completely unique experience …

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